You Have the Power to Pivot

Recently, I saw a story about a celebrity who shared that her boyfriend had cheated on her after she had given him everything and more.

A few days later, it came out that she canceled the rest of one of her business commitments.

Now, I don’t know her personally. I don’t know the full story. I don’t even know if those two things were connected.

But when I saw it, I had a thought I couldn’t shake:

I wish I could tell her you are stronger than you think you are.

And honestly, this is or was the reality for a lot of us gillies, and I want to say that to you too.

Us gillies, we go through things. Real things. Disappointment, heartbreak, loneliness, confusion moments where everything just feels heavier than it should.

And if you’re anything like me, you feel things deeply. You don’t just brush it off and keep pushing as if nothing happened. You sit in it. You process it. You carry it.

And that’s not a bad thing.

But there is a difference between feeling something… and living there.

There has to be a moment where you allow yourself to really feel it but then also decide, “I’m not going to stay here.”

Sometimes that looks like giving yourself time. Maybe it’s 15 minutes. Maybe it’s an hour. Maybe it’s a night where you just let yourself cry, journal, pray, or just sit with it.

But then comes the shift.

Not rushed. Not forced. But intentional.

Because you can be pretty and powerful… and soft and strategic at the same time.

Soft means you don’t harden your heart just because something hurt you. You don’t carry bitterness into your next season. You allow yourself to feel without shame.

Strategic means you don’t let that feeling make your next decision for you. You pause. You think. You choose how you’re going to move next.

Be soft with your heart—but strategic with your next move.

For me, that always starts with prayer.

Not the polished kind. Not the “I have it all together” kind. But the honest kind.

The kind where you remind yourself of what’s true, even when your feelings are loud.

“You are fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14).

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13).

“God is not the author of confusion, but of peace” (1 Corinthians 14:33).

Sometimes you have to say those things out loud until your spirit catches up with what you already know.

Once you’ve grounded yourself, then you get honest.

What actually happened?

What am I feeling and why?

What do I need right now?

Not what everybody else thinks you should do. Not what looks good on the outside. What do you actually need?

From there, you start moving. Not in a rushed, emotional reaction—but in a decision.

Healing doesn’t just happen to you. You have to participate in it.

That might look like choosing not to go back to what hurt you.

It might look like making a different decision than you did last time.

It might look like showing up for yourself in small ways when you don’t feel like it.

And while you’re doing that, you don’t need to invite the whole world into it.

Everything doesn’t need to be posted. Everything doesn’t need to be explained.

Some seasons are meant to be practiced in private.

That’s where your people come in your real people. The ones I like to call your Board of Directors.

Not everybody gets a seat.

Your Board of Directors are the people who help you think clearly when your emotions are loud. The ones who can hold space for you, but also gently remind you who you are. The ones who don’t let you spiral, but also don’t rush you past what you need to process.

That might be a best friend, a mentor, someone in your family, or a spiritual voice you trust.

Those are the voices you lean on, not the noise.

And then, eventually, you move.

You don’t rush it. You don’t force it. But you do move.

You try again. You rebuild. You step back into your life with a little more clarity, a little more awareness, and a lot more intention.

That’s the pivot.

Not pretending it didn’t hurt.

Not skipping the process.

But choosing not to stay stuck in it.

Because at the end of the day, your life is still yours to live.

Your goals still matter.

Your future still matters.

You still matter.

And yes, as Beyoncé said, the best revenge is your paper.

But more than that, the real win is the way you keep going. The way you don’t let what hurt you define you. The way you choose to keep building anyway.

So to any GIRLIE who is in a heavy moment right now:

It’s going to be okay.

You are stronger than you feel.

You have the power to make your next move.

You have the power to pivot.

Feel it.

Honor it.

Then move.

Glow up intentionally.